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[seekingferret]

Exhausting couple of weeks. A week ago Saturday night was freeradical42's bachelor party, which I hosted. We braved the snow- everyone was late as a result- but it was a really good, chill time. It was the sort of hangout we used to do when we were in our early twenties and have been too busy and dispersed to do too often lately- dinner and then a laid back trip to a bar with lots of beer choices. My commitment from day one of planning was "The only strippers at this party will be wire strippers." I gave freeradical42 a pair of wire strippers, and the other groomsmen gave him a pair of gardening hoes and a bottle of coke. Because my friends are all as terrible as I am. So now I know I can plan a bachelor party, woo!

I was also in the city Tuesday and Thursday- Tuesday for Puzzled Pint with ghost_lingering, Thursday for wedding rehearsal and dinner with freeradical42's family. Wednesday I spent in bed with a cold.

Then Sunday was the wedding. It was wonderful. freeradical42 and I met at CTY more than fifteen years ago, when I was sixteen. I'll be 32 in April, so yeah, we've known each other just about half our lives. We've done a lot of crazy shit together, we've grown up so much together, and he's been there so many times when I've needed him, that I'm incredibly happy that he's found this happiness. And his wife, who doesn't have an LJ I can tag that I recall, I've known nearly as long, and she's an amazing person who complements him so well.

The ceremony was in a beautiful hundred year old synagoguge on the Upper West Side. I served as one of the eidim, the witnesses to kiddushin. Because of this, I was asked to hold the ring- I did not lose it!!! The Rabbi spoke well, the musicality of the chazan singing the Sheva Brachot with choir backup was lovely, and then it was over and there were hugs. Much hugs.

And then the reception, with so much dancing my legs were barely holding me up the next day, and the surprise arrival of allandaros, who had a health issue come up at the last minute and almost missed the whole affair. theslammer brought a bunch of CTY frisbees and we danced with them and then we drank an alcoholic version of the Passionfruit. Also a whole lot more hugs and some great conversation with amazing people, and good food and good alcohol and happiness. Happiness, man. It's a good thing.


Then Monday I had D&D and Tuesday I had a second date, that also went really well. I am very hopeful about this. I am also struggling to figure out how to balance my post-wedding exhaustion and introversion with my desire to push that forward. A large part of me wants to spend the next week all by myself curled up in a ball not having any human contact. Instead, tonight I'm going to dinner with my parents. Or really, I'm going to tech support my parents' printer, with dinner thrown in.

Comments

[lokifan]

Good friends' weddings are SO GOOD. And congrats on pulling off a great bachelor party!

[seekingferret]

:)

[scintilla72]

So uh, who *is* theslammer anyway? Given the mutual friends, I'm guessing s/he is probably a CTYer I know, but with no actual entries, I have no way of telling who.

[morbane]

Fantastic punning solution to the bachelor's party!

Your social periods sound really intense. I am not sure how our levels of introversion compare, but I think I would want a week of no social time after that. Hopefully as you get to know this person better, you can have dates that don't feel like SOCIAL MODE: HIGH, but a second date is optimistic timing for that, I know.

-oh, and warm wishes for your friends. Joel and I met freeradical42 that day in New York, didn't we?

[seekingferret]

No, I think I invited freeradical42 to join us at the Frick, but he couldn't make it. The guy you did meet was the one of the other groomsmen in this wedding, though.

you can have dates that don't feel like SOCIAL MODE: HIGH, but a second date is optimistic timing for that, I know.

Yeah, I want to just be like "Hey, can we just hang out some time next week and not do anything?" but I think we're not quite there yet. But eh, I have this weekend to curl up in a ball, maybe that'll be enough recovery time.

[roga]

Yay for good wedding experiences! And for the date. I am similar in my desire for downtime after intense social activities but if you have a good feeling about this, then yes, push through and go! I hope it goes well :D

[seekingferret]

:D

Puzzled Pint

[brainwane]

You mentioned Puzzled Pint, and then later on the same day a friend recommended Puzzled Pint to me. My spouse and I looked at a few of the archived puzzles and think it would be fun to try coming to the next NYC one. Do you and ghost_lingering already have a full team set up, or would you be open to me & my spouse joining you?

Re: Puzzled Pint

[seekingferret]

We're a pretty open team- every month I send out a reminder email to a group of semi-regular teammates and whoever shows up shows up. We've varied from sometimes it's just me to as many as seven or eight people, and if we get that many we just split into two teams for the night. You're welcome to join us- PM me your email address and I'll add you to the reminder list.