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[seekingferret]

I matched with someone in a virtual speed dating a month ago. Since then we've managed one video date, plus a bunch of emails back and forth of me trying to schedule another and her telling me she's not sure what her schedule is and will get back to me.

What's a polite way to say "Hey, I can't tell if you're interested and busy or trying to awkwardly blow me off, but it's gotten to the point where I'm annoyed. If you're not interested, tell me so I can stop wasting time. And if you're busy, the ball's now in your court to figure out when you're available and try to set another date." ?

Comments

[cahn]

Why not just say "OK, let me know when you know what your schedule is and when would be convenient for you," and then stop sending her email unless she writes back. That basically says exactly what you want it to say -- the ball is in her court. Then you can stop thinking about her either way -- if she gets back to you, then she's interested and great, and if not, then you haven't wasted any more time.

(Yes, it would be nice if people just told each other when they weren't interested, but see also this xkcd.)

[angledge]

I second this approach. No need to say you're annoyed, just put the ball in her court & see what happens.

[calledtovienna]

Third. You want her to know that the ball is in her court, and this gets that across. If you don't get a response, assume that she is either not interested, or doesn't have her stuff together enough to handle logistics of this relationship (which is basically the same as not interested).